Birth Support
As a birth doula in Kent and London I provide unwavering, non-judgmental support throughout your pregnancy, labour and new motherhood. You will get unconditional reinforcement for your practical, emotional and informational needs.
Choosing someone to be with you during such a vulnerable and emotional time can be a big decision and it is important to have a lot of trust in the person supporting you. I’m sure there will be things particular to your pregnancy, birth and parenting that I have missed so please never be afraid to ask via the contact page. There is information here on the area of Kent and southeast London that I cover as a birth doula, whether at your home, birth center or hospital.
birth doula support
“If you want a great birth experience, you should get in touch with Ruth. She will give you support you need and make sure your voice is heard. My birth experience was amazing, I gave birth without any pain relief, just asked for the gas and air in the end. If I had any concerns or questions, I knew I could always ask Ruth. She will be always there for you when you need her”
When you Choose me as your Doula
Overview
Initial meeting where we check that we are a good fit for eachother (this can be a call if you prefer)
whatsapp group with you and your birth partner/s for all your burning questions and info exhange
calls and video calls as needed/wanted
Two or three antenatal meetings (details below) - between 6 and 10 hours usually
Back up doula in case of broken legs or natural disasters.
Access to my resources (details below)
On call from 39 weeks
Unwavering support during your birth
Postnatal visit/s
Virtual support during your postnatal period
What do Antenatal meetings look like?
usually, 2 sessions of 2-3 hours long, in the comfort of your home, at a time to suit you
totally bespoke to you, we can include as much of my antenatal education as you like
you have space to talk, space to tell me what you want and how you are feeling and I will listen. There are not many times in daily life where we are deeply listened to and it can do us a lot of good.
We explore your plans, wishes, expectations, fears, doubts, expertise and gaps in knowledge.
Together, if you wish, we work towards the birth plans for you and your family that is led by evidence based information
I do not have an opinion of the type of birth that is best for you. I am here to support you in your choices.
You can reach me anytime by email, call and text from when we first meet - any worries or questions you can get in touch
On call
From 39 weeks or earlier if you have reason to think you will birth earlier
You can reach me immediately, night and day by phone call. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
If you have a worry, a question, something you feel silly asking, or you do not want to be judged - call me
You decide when you want me with you in labour
If you give birth before 39 weeks then I will do everything I can to be there, or a back up might be able to attend if I can’t
Support during your whole birth
Physical, emotional and information support from the first moment you are in labour until your baby is born
Let me know when you go into labour, if you’re not sure, give me a call anytime - I will never mind if it all quietens down again.
We will be in touch and you will know instinctively when you would like me to be there with you. If you are unsure, I can always come by for a bit and go home again if you would like to see me but don’t need me for long. Everyone is different.
I'll stay until you and the baby are settled and happy for me to leave
At least one postnatal visit
Some people prefer next day (another bonus of having the shared care team of doulas - fresh pair of hands for next day!), some families find they want a week or two to get settled before we come round for a debrief and a cuddle.
perhaps your partner goes back to work after a couple of weeks, or days, and you would like me to pop in for some reassurance
You can talk to me, this is a time for you to be truly listened to
If you have practical things that you would like to be done, I can do those too.
If you’d like more than one visit you can book postnatal support during pregnancy or after your baby is here.
Support for 6 weeks after the birth
you might have a whole lot of new questions that cannot be covered in an hour postnatal visit,
call or text me and you can speak to someone who has known you for months and was at your birth,
I always adore hearing how you are getting on and seeing some baby photos, you can keep in touch as much or as little as you want.
I offer occasional postnatal support, give me a call to see if I’m available or take a look here to see my packages.
Breastfeeding support
if you want it, for as long as you need
breastfeeding is a choice, often hampered by challenges that can be overcome by enough of the right support
So often we face high expectations without adequate support - I will do all I can to help you to meet your goals
if you make the choice not to breastfeed I support you too
I am training to be a Breastfeeding Counsellor with the ABM (started January 2019, 24 month course). If I have met you in my role as a Breastfeeding Counsellor then I can refer to you to another doula who will be able to support you. If you are a doula client, you may benefit from my breastfeeding knowledge and experience but only ever free of charge.
Read more testimonials here.
Equipment and tools
I have my doula bag full of tools and tricks…but these might be things that you were thinking about hiring, that you can borrow from me for free.
Birth Pool
TENS Machine
Books
Area I cover
Ask if you don’t see where you live below - sometimes I travel further.
You deserve a doula
All the above for £1,900
Birth experiences last us a lifetime, invest in yourself, your partner and your baby.
If you have any concerns about money, you can talk to me. If I can offer you a discount, a payment plan or a skill swap - I will. I work on a trust basis, if you have enough to pay then I ask that you do. If you feel that I am a bargain and would like to give more, that money goes towards supporting family’s who would not otherwise be able to have a doula. My clients’ generosity and compassion has changed some families’ lives.
Alongside paid work, I volunteer with Doulas Without Borders who provide free of charge doulas to some of the UK's most vulnerable mothers. As a collective The Good Birth Practice donate £25 of every birth towards family based charities. Everyone who wants one deserves to have a doula.
As a member of Doula UK (DUK), my practice reflects the Doula UK philosophy and the Doula UK code of conduct.
Doula UK has a voucher scheme, so friends and family can buy you a portion of your birth care or some postnatal hours.
If you are in need of free support please contact Doulas Without Borders.